Updated: Feb 22
The year was 2004 – Mel Gibson’s, The Passion of The Christ was released. A married couple made headlines – resulting from a disagreement with some alleged biblical inaccuracies regarding the film. Some blood was shed between the two (nothing serious) – nevertheless, the shame of their behavior was publicly exposed. The couple was later interviewed, and stressed their embarrassment. I too have had times when my behavior turned into an embarrassing moment. Although I’ve had several, this one sticks out the most. I was in the midst of a conversation with a friend. After several minutes, our conversation became disagreeable, then loud and intense. I must have blacked out, because the next thing that I remembered was a series of repetitive babbling (no drugs, alcohol, or violence involved).
Here goes: Me – “I wouldn’t have said what I said if you hadn’t said what you said.” My friend shared the exact sentiments…, “No, I wouldn’t have said what I said, if you hadn’t said what you said.” Me – “You said whatever you said before I said what I said.” – “My friend – “That’s not true, you said whatever you said first!” Me – “You know that my response was to what you said.” This behavior went on between us for more than 20 minutes! It was clear, we both had totally forgotten what was initially said! This is a true story! It should have been a moment of laughter, instead – it turned into a moment of sheer embarrassment. I was stunned that I allowed myself to exhibit such behavior – pretty much like those birds – arms flapping, mouth wide open! Contention is usually about the ego, our thoughts and beliefs – period. Whenever we refuse to take note of our own behavior – the stuff that hinders our spiritual or personal development, moments of intensity can throw us off course.
If we do find ourselves in contentious & embarrassing encounters, it’s the perfect assignment to gain some wisdom! As we become better acquainted with ourselves – we’re better prepared to practice in the moment disciplines that sway us away from egoic moments that do nothing but bring shame & embarrassment!
“Only by pride comes contention: but with the well advised is wisdom” ~Proverbs 13:10
Have you ever been embarrassed by your involvement in contention? How did you handle it? How do you avoid it?
You’re always welcome to add your thoughts & your wisdom. Thank you for your visit. Live wise & live well. ~Storm
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